Liking and Loving

Today we finished talking about the different approaches. We discussed more of Attachment theory and then Interdependence Theory and touched on Self-Expansion Theory. Key terms and some notes are listed below.

Hazan and Shaver 3-type model: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant

Working models

Bartholomew & Horowitz’s 4 types of attachment styles:

Secure, Anxious, Dismissing, Avoidant (Fearful)

What type of partner do we look for according to the Attachment perspective?

Interdependence Theory

Transformation of motivation

Current outcomes

Comparison Level (CL)

Comparison Level for Alternatives (CLalt)

Satisfaction

Commitment

Dependence

Cognitive Interdependence

Self-Expansion Theory (Aron and Aron)

A. People seek to “expand” self

1. physical and social influence

2. cognitive complexity

3. social and bodily identity

4. awareness of position in university

B. What do we gain from a potential relationship?

1. “I will have the use of all my house plus gain the use of all of yours”

2. Move from selfish à unselfish

C. Has been used to explain:

1. increases / decreases in relationship satisfaction

2. role / importance of shared activities

3. role of arousal / unusualness in attraction

D. Inclusion of Other in the Self

E. Opposites Attract vs. Birds of a Feather Flock Together